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Friday, July 18, 2003

"What's in a name?" Shakespear's Juliet asked. "That which we call a rose by any other word would smell as sweet."


Its all in the name, I say. My mom probably was not expecting that her "Ragini" would live in a country where people struggle to pronounce anything thats not a John or a Smith. So R-A-G-I-N-I becomes "Regina" .. A name I just cannot stand. But I insist they learn to say my name right. I refuse to change it to a "Reggae" or something, simply coz it suits their convenience. At restaurants. Kaushal becomes Kris, Shyamal becomes Sam, and Aaras( now how hard is that !!!! ) becomes Alex. The last time i said "Ragini" at Starbucks, it somehow magically became "Virginia". HOW ??? What cracks me up though is given my name is complicated, how come Ram became "TOM" ??? As shyamal says, unless he says Sam with an accent they even don't get that !. I am close to giving up. At times when i don't have the patience to go through the exercise of making them repeat my name after me, I simply say Rachel or Hazel or some name that i would have liked to have were I american. Growing up in this country and having complicated Indian names will border on child abuse. :).

It shouldnt really matter, but my name is part of my identity, that makes me ME. And i refuse to let go of that part of me. !!!

9 Comments:

  • yup...I insist on these goora, kaalus, maakus and chinkee on getting my name right...and u should when u have a wonderful name (ever wonder how i keep repeating this?)
    Originally @ Jul 18, 2003 10:48 PST

    By Anonymous patrix, at 3:23 PM  

  • Agree vidya, even here ppl cant pronounce my goodname. BTW, there is a girl in our office in ur name, whom I call RAGS. Now every1 calls her RAGS. However she never complained.
    Originally @ Jul 18, 2003 23:46 PST

    By Anonymous Neo, at 3:23 PM  

  • True...it is absolutely agonizing to see ur name being eaten up or jumbled up for other's convenience.But dear, this problem is equally widespread in India too. for eg. people find it easy to say REKHA but when it comes to my surname,they have a hard time and me too.therefore i say i am rekha shekhar instead of shekharan, just to maintain my sanity.
    Originally @ Jul 19, 2003 04:45 PST

    By Anonymous Rekha Shekharan, at 3:24 PM  

  • hey rags, i agree da mispelt name does bug one. The same goes with me ,my name is shweta but ppl call it swaeda n stuff esp in the mallu school i studied it was sweeda. God wish ppl cud get it rt
    n later in coll it came to various other ways ,rt now must be havin 13 different ways of callin my name..........
    Originally @ Jul 19, 2003 07:10 PST

    By Anonymous tanya, at 3:24 PM  

  • Reading your piece, I wonder if I have cursed my daughter to a life of misery and insanity when she goes for her higher education to the US....I have optimistically, unwittingly named her MANASVI!!
    Originally @ Jul 19, 2003 23:46 PST

    By Anonymous KK, at 3:24 PM  

  • I'm lucky! Tanya they only mis-spell to Tania, but they say it OK. LOL, I know a "Sam" who's real name is .... wait for it .... OSAMA!
    Originally @ Jul 20, 2003 21:37 PST

    By Anonymous Tanya, at 3:25 PM  

  • Hey ragzmatazz. My name is Suma and I have a big bum so I'm called Sumo by all the people I meet sometime or the other.I used to hate my parents for awhile. Its irritating yes, but now I've taken to saying "Thank your stars I don't come in red thongs to wrestle with you." When fellow indians can molest your name to such an extent, can you blame the others ?? People will be people. Do what suits 'em fine. But you have a b'ful name so to hell with the world. And KK, I think Manasvi is a b'ful name. Btw, I'm going to name my yet unborn daughter, ( she's still in the egg and sperm stage, separately :) ), Tanushka, which is a melange of all my nieces' names. If she does want to do her studies abroad, I'm waiting to see what they call her there. It sounds Russian, so I guess she won't have much problems. And I liked your posts, tune !!!
    Originally @ Jul 21, 2003 01:04 PST

    By Anonymous Ms.Madmax, at 3:25 PM  

  • out of all these names i like d saumya's name...saumya sound's niche ......whats the meaning of this name can any one tell me.....?
    Originally @ Jul 21, 2003 05:11 PST

    By Anonymous Paresh, at 3:25 PM  

  • so true....for most americans I am Sue....its worthless trying to make them pronounce ur name....u spend 5 mins telling them wht to say and they mess it up anyways.....
    Originally @ Jul 21, 2003 07:32 PST

    By Anonymous shruti, at 3:25 PM  

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